by Guest Thu Nov 16, 2017 10:58 am
I have been developing a powerfully close friendship the last two years with a guy from my office. We share with each other as we would speak to ourselves. Our friendship goes through cycles, but has been a great source of help to both of us. We often are sending each other thoughts we think came from within our own minds at the exact right moment. Many magickal connections. I would say we are psychically communicating.
Until one develops a true friendship with themselves, I don't think it possible for them to interact as a Human Being with others. A true friendship is not covetous, but mutually supportive.
I often am reading the Stoic Seneca these days, everyday recently, and I really thought his description of friendship profound, for it has been my recent experience. He often quotes Epicurus and says any good truth belongs to all as common knowledge and he felt it good to free knowledge and teach. So who knows where he ends and I begin or vice versa. The teacher is always learning as they teach.
Some excerpts from Letter 6 on Sharing Knowledge...
"I can show you many who have lacked, not a friend, but a friendship; this, however, cannot possibly happen when souls are drawn together by identical inclinations into an alliance of honourable desires. And why can it not happen? Because in such cases men know that they have all things in common, especially their troubles."
"I therefore wish to impart to you this sudden change in myself; I should then begin to place a surer trust in our friendship, – the true friendship which hope and fear and self-interest cannot sever, the friendship in which and for the sake of which men meet death."
"No good thing is pleasant to possess, without friends to share it."
"Meanwhile, I owe you my little daily contribution; you shall be told what pleased me to-day in the writings of Hecato;[2] it is these words: "What progress, you ask, have I made? I have begun to be a friend to myself." That was indeed a great benefit; such a person can never be alone. You may be sure that such a man is a friend to all mankind. Farewell."
Letters 3, 9, and 35 are also very instructive.
https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/Moral_letters_to_Lucilius/Letter_6
Letter 9, beware the 'fair-weather' friend.
"Let us now return to the question. The wise man, I say, self-sufficient though he be, nevertheless desires friends if only for the purpose of practising friendship, in order that his noble qualities may not lie dormant. Not, however, for the purpose mentioned by Epicurus[6] in the letter quoted above: "That there may be someone to sit by him when he is ill, to help him when he is in prison or in want;" but that he may have someone by whose sick-bed he himself may sit, someone a prisoner in hostile hands whom he himself may set free. He who regards himself only, and enters upon friendships for this reason, reckons wrongly. The end will be like the beginning: he has made friends with one who might assist him out of bondage; at the first rattle of the chain such a friend will desert him."
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It is worth having friends, making them, tending to them. We often are not very good at the last part, as it is in the making of a new friendship, we are most moved and excited by, but they can mature into very fine things. The best of things. Human beings were made to be social cooperative creatures, but it only balances when all can move from their center without desire, submitting to nature and reason.
Many times the wise man desires friendship, and Seneca advocates that you should be active about friendship. If you want a friend, be a friend. The wise man should bear solitude, but not miss the opportunity of making a friend. There are plenty of precepts that I cannot hunt down at the moment but will return to add if I find them.
Your wife, husband or partner could be your truest friend. Who is close to you that you are keeping at a distance, perhaps you should welcome them to your fire and share a meal with them.
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